Back in 2009, I was arrested after my wife and I got into a loud argument. I spent the next twenty-four hours in jail. They charged me with simple battery and told to take an anger management class. I never saw myself as angry, violent, or controlling.
It turns out I was (and still am) all three! As I spent the next twelve weeks in this class, I came to realize I had some serious work to do on myself. I finished the program but felt I still needed the guidance it was offering.
To fix this, I kept going to the class voluntarily for almost three years. In that time I had learned so much about myself, my anger, and my need for control. I was also, occasionally, teaching this class for the instructor when he was away. I had found that my story and my slow transformation could help others in their own journey.
In 2014 I opened my FVIP and anger management class in Georgia. I have spent a great deal of time still learning and finding new approaches to help myself and others. I have found Buddhism and really enjoy what it has shown me. I have been adapting its teachings into my life.
I am no longer teaching and have left my program as of earlier this year. I still really enjoy the work and want to help people but I do not feel that running an FVIP with the state is the best way to do this. I want to connect with people and reach them in a way that is just not possible with the stipulations involved in teaching with the state.
I still have a long way to go on my journey of personal growth. I, however, know it is possible for me and all who seek to make these positive changes for themselves. I hope you will join me as I share what I have learned and what I still struggle with almost daily.
August 14th, 2019 | 22 mins 57 secs
Be impeccable with your word. Seems simple, right? Chris and I dive into this topic. It is based on the concepts from the book "The Four Agreements" by Don Miguel Ruiz. This is part 1 of 4.
August 4th, 2019 | 3 mins 52 secs
This is a quick bonus episode. In the wake of two deadly mass shootings in the US in the past 24 hours, I felt compelled to share this message. Please seek help if you are feeling overwhelmed and like you could hurt yourself or others.
July 31st, 2019 | 28 mins 42 secs
How does confidence affect anger?
July 24th, 2019 | 9 mins 17 secs
When we learn our love language it is almost magic. It can help us connect and feel loved. In this episode, I talk through some basics of a great book. "The 5 Love Languages" by Gary Chapman. Learn them, express them to each other, use them, and be...
July 8th, 2019 | 9 mins 34 secs
If I just avoid the stuff that makes me angry I won't get angry. This is an idea I hear so often. The problem with it is you never learn to overcome the triggers of your anger. In this episode, I talk about the value of leaning into your anger...
June 19th, 2019 | 39 mins 1 sec
I talk with Patrick who has been dealing with and learning to handle his anger. We talk about violence, control, and a great book on anger. I also share more about mothers day last year. (I am awful at these summaries!)
June 6th, 2019 | 8 mins 58 secs
The idea that personal growth is this easy, straight line process. We will all fall back. We will all have a moment we take a step or two back. On this episode, I talk about my big step back last year. Then I offer what that step back has to teach us.
May 28th, 2019 | 3 mins 21 secs
A quick bonus announcement about a new online Group I am starting. We will meet once a month via video chat and just talk all about what we are struggling with and areas you all would like more information.
May 24th, 2019 | 9 mins 57 secs
We all need something. We may not always know what that is. Listen this week as I talk about what it means to have needs.
April 17th, 2019 | 7 mins 59 secs
I used "The Egg" by Andy Wier to find a new way to see my anger.
April 10th, 2019 | 9 mins 12 secs
Anger can seem to come out of nowhere at times.
April 3rd, 2019 | 31 mins 36 secs
I talk with a very special guest, my wife.